Eight Ways To Waste Your Time By Joyce Meyer

  The woman who does all the motivation:

My favourite author is Joyce Meyer, who I am currently reading her book "I Dare You" is a purpose driven life. In her book she talks about knowing your purpose , having a passion for it and working hard and not wasting your time.She explains that a life without purpose is a life not worth living. I am currently reading the chapter which she talks about "Eight Ways To Waste Your Time":

Worry is a waste of time:

Worrying about everything in life is a waste of time. People spend most their life's worrying about the issues of life.You meet people in a bad mood and they tell you about their problems and how frustrated they are.I believe that the only way to survive in life is just to believe that God planned for us to go through these situations. When you worry to much you end up paying therapies to help you, you began to have even more stress and want to commit suicide.I have seen people worrying about what they will wear tomorrow , what they will eat and instead of trusting in the almighty who said he will never leave us nor forsake us. "Worry slows down your drive and puts roadblocks up in front of your determination" so it is important that you strive for what you want and do not worry.

Guilt is a waste of time:

We all go through a process of guilt sometime in our lives, this can be caused by something you did that you regret or you are experiencing the consequences. Guilt is an emotions that occurs when someone feels like they have violated a moral standard that they themselves believe in. Guilt can bring depression and you find yourself in a suicidal state. As a person it is wiser to know that God says a man falls seven times and you can still get up. We can sin and God can forgive us all for our wrong doing, that is why we say that Guilt is waste of time.

Trying to change what Only God can change is a waste of time:

Trying to change what God can change is a waste of time, there are some things in life God has given us for a specific reason and a specific purpose. I look around the world and I see people who are doing nose, neck, face operation and I think to myself why are people not happy with the way they look. God created everyone with his own image and he knew us before we were formed in our mothers womb. In this case what i am saying is that some situations we can not change, if our mother who brought you in this world and she does not take care of you, why do you wish for God to give you other mother if he has given you one.

Complaining is a waste of time:

Why do people love complaining? people complain about the weather, food, cloths , their jobs and their situations. I have learned that we must appreciate what we have and stop complaining about what life throws to us. It is a waste of time to complain about something rather than try to make a change about what you are not happy about. There are situations which tempt you to complain, example at school, you find yourself complaining about your lecturers, your friends at school and all you need to do is just keep quite.Grumbling, fault finding open a door for the devil to bring destruction in our lives.

Fear

Fear is the position where you feel threatened , oppressed and torments and does block our ability to be passionate and enthusiastic about life.  God did not give us the spirit of fear he has given us the spirit to be able to achieve what we want and also do not be afraid to challenge someone. What people do not realise is that God has given us authority.

Anger is a waste of time:
Whatever is making you so angry, it’s time for you to give it to God and get over it. Life is not fair but God is. He will bring justice into your life, but you must drop that offence, leave it, let it go, and trust God to bring resolution in His perfect timing. when you are angry it can bring danger to your life because a person can do something bad to you and you might end up wanting to kill them.

Blame is a waste of time:

We all need to learn from our past and stop blaming others. I myself intend to blame other people especially when doing group work but there is nothing wrong in forgiving a person. Blaming yourself is like taking a step backward is like you can not get over something , this destructs you and you lose focus to what is ahead of you which you need to achieve.

Comparison is waste of time:

As human beings we feel inferior when we are with other people, because we might not have something which they have. God has given us gifts (all of us). So comparing yourself with somebody else is just a waste of time. It is time that you Embrace the unknown , the things that you do not know about yourself and as well as you embrace the known which are the things you can do.

                                           

KNOW YOUR CULTURE

Heritage Day is one of the newly created South African public holidays. It is a day in which we are all encouraged to celebrate their cultural traditions in the wider context of the great diversity of cultures, beliefs, and traditions that make up the nation of South Africa. In is very important for an individual to know their roots, where they were born and at least have their traditional attire.

Knowing your culture does not necessarily mean you have to be on your tradition attire everyday and behave  differently. You can still embrace it by not forgetting where you come from, being able to speak your home language and  know where your people come from. These days i have noticed that people no longer practice  or respect their culture. We are now westernized and follow what other western countries and forgetting that we are South Africans.

I was born in the Setswana tribe but i can tell you that i do not know most of what we practice. At some point i asked my parents why they did not take me to township schools to learn my home language. There was a point i blamed them that during school holidays they should have taken us home(in North West) so to learn about our culture.But at the end of the day i should have pushed them to teach me what i need to know while its still early.

 They say that the Tswana tribe who migrated from the East Africa to Southern Africa during the 14th century. The origin of the name "Tswana" is mystery but applied to a number of groups who all speak the same language, have similar customs but separate names. This makes me wander who are the 1st generation of our culture.

I personally encourage people to to know their culture so they will not be lost. For me i feel kind of lost  because i use my fathers Step-dad surname and i was told that he was from an international country. Question is am i international or from the Setswana tribe? At the end of the day i console myself by saying God is the who really knows who i am.

"South Africa is Diverse and proud of the different cultures we have".

HOW DO YOU DEFINE YOURSELF...

How do you define yourself as a person? Do you see yourself as a loser, coward and stupid.  Find yourself time and think about this. How and who do you describe yourself as, when someone askes you this question. I have come across people who accept what people call them whether is a negative or postive thing. Then they even laugh it off acting like that person meant it as a joke. My pastor taught me the power of the tongue and be careful of what people say about you.

I was one of people that was called all sorts of names and I would laugh and believe what they said. It did not bother me at first but once people call you bad names frequently it starts to sink in and you than develop what is called Low Self-esteem. It is so easy for a person to see that your not confident , your shy and not courageous. I can say this feeling is one of the most heartbreaking process one can go through. The worst part is that you can not change it over night.

Then at church they give us a confession list which we should confess every morning when we wake up. Oh i tell you that the tongue is powerful. Since i started doing the saying the confession every morning my life is much much better, i no longer worry about what others say and who says what behind. They is a saying that says people who talk behind you are , people who are behind in life, they just have nothing to do in life but just to talk about you.

I remember a song by Kirk Franklin "my life ,my love,my all". It reminds me that no one can  judge you but the almighty who is your life, who let his only and only son to die for us on the cross so we can have life/eternal life. He is God of love who loves us unconditionally, amazingly without no doubt. He is God of all , everything that is on earth is created by him and he give man the gift to be able to produce human-made things like cars, house and others. That is why when you achieve something you need to thank God who blessed you.  

I will conclude by saying that never let people define for you , who you are!!! Open your mouth and speak positive things about yourself (I am Great, I am Strong, Im A Genius, Im Smart)etc. You might take this light but it really works.

APPRECIATE WHAT YOU HAVE>3

First thing you should appreciate is God decided that you should live in this world because maybe you were supposed to  be a dog but than God said you should be a human being. The second you should appreciate is that your body is functioning well and that you do not need machines to help you. Third thing is that your mother decided not to abort you because God put some sense into her brain.Finally God knew you before you were formed in your mothers womb.

People this days care about how successful they are (financially,in their marriage and career) and the house they live in and the amount of money they are making. Never have they take the time just to thank God for blessing them with what they have. That is why some Christians  are successful because the fruits  they reap/harvested/receive they take ten percent of it to church. The ten percent is just to thank God for blessing them and providing them with the things they need.

Then I ask myself what is it that you appreciate today, is it that the mercy and grace of God that has been with you through your life, studies, job and family. It does not even take you an hour or years just to say "Modimo kae leboga" Meaning "God Thank You". That is all you need to do.Instead people today worship the material things that they have achieved. Have you ever thought about what if God takes them away from you.

BEAUTIFUL WOMEN...

When God created Adam (Male) , he figured out that Adam will be a lonely man living alone. He than decided to create Eve (Female) who will live with Adam. My point is have you ever asked yourself why God  Created women and why the word Female has a male in it? That is because women are special and God knew that without females , male species were not going to survive.

 As a women I believe that we are not given the amount of rest we deserve. We are underestimated , we viewed as  slaves and also perceived as weak. As you read the bible you find that the sins which women committed was adultery. When I analysis it i realize that woman today are actually seen as sex salves. For example some woman get what they want through sex they get (cars, clothes , jobs) and others. Yes it is true that some were forced to do such but the question is will it ever stop!.

When i walk on the streets i see young girls being mothers and not chasing their dreams. I see them involved in crime, helpless and not motivated. These days women are being raped and the country is doing nothing about it.Oh how i wish to blame their parents for not raising them well, but yet again i think about the fact that they make their own decisions. Who can really help these women of God , who else can rescue them besides God? The answer is they all need God in their lives.

When i grow up i was taught that is a women must have dignity if you do not have it men will use you and crawl over you. I was also taught how to take care of myself, how to be in depended, how to control myself and not follow the entertainment of the world because it does not change.Finally i was taught to never give up, fight for what i believe in and do not be intimidated by somebody because i also have potential.

Today i advise all women to be Beautiful inside and out. I want to see young woman  being the leaders of tomorrow , being the well known business ladies, being able to say no.When will i wake up and hear on the news that women are hard workers, they are confident and should be valued. Shout out to the sisters who have jobs, who are mothers, who are single parents , who are working hard, who are wife's and they are still Driven.

WHERE are you Ladies? God  did not call us to sit, watch television, think about fashion and go to malls. God has a purpose for us all , lets work on it. God loves you Beautiful Women.